
Under the feisty and inspiring coaching of Wen-Do instructor Deb Parent, thirteen young women gathered Thursday in The Cat’s Eye to learn their self-worth and how to defend it.
“Let’s go bowling, ladies!” she called out, the Victoria College students yelling “HUT!” with new-found voices as they swung their hands between an imaginary assailant’s legs.
Canada’s oldest women’s self-defense organization, Wen-Do teaches women both verbal and physical self-defense techniques that complement their goal of training women on how to be aware of, avoid, and ultimately take action against assault. This philosophy was put into practice in the three-hour class organized by Rowell Jackman residence Dons Jess Hierons and Rachel Campbell through U of T’s Community Safety Office. U of T is one of the few universities offering this kind of service free of charge, an opportunity which Deb believes all young women should take advantage of.
“What women have,” Deb explained, “is the element of surprise. Society has taught women to be passive and men to expect no resistance to their unwanted advances. But any form of resistance can decrease the chances of completed sexual assault against a woman by up to 80 percent.”
We gathered in a circle with partners to practice various self-defense techniques, from a “Hello, Goodbye” hand slice to the carotid artery (or in our case, rolled-up yoga mats) to ways to escape bear-hugs, wrist grabs and other unwanted physical contact.
“Follow-through in executing these techniques can double your strength,” Deb demonstrated, the petite woman sending the yoga mat flying across the room with a swinging hammer-punch.
She distributed diagrams of vulnerable points on the human body, outlining areas where “soft” (non-permanent) and “hard” (permanent) damage can be afflicted on an attacker. She asked us: is a man’s groin a “hard” or “soft” point?
“Hard” was the general consensus. Deb laughed and said that despite what men might say or believe, there would be no male professional athletes if this were truly the case. “Grab and twist – the doorknob technique!”
Deb spoke to me about why this class was not co-ed. “We want this to be an inclusive space where women can talk about issues specific to our sex and the ways society affects us as girls. Violence against men is often different to the sexual assault experienced by women, as the attacker is usually someone she knows.”
She tells me about movements like Tough GUISE, a project designed to change male attitudes towards masculinity to help them see how their violent behaviours and attitudes can negatively affect women. “Popular culture teaches both men and women to behave in ways dangerous to both themselves and the opposite sex. We need to break through these stereotypes, and programs like ours are trying to help.” Getting word out about these programs and talking to people you trust about what dangers you may be facing is the first step towards a safer city for young women.
With a confidence-boosting repertoire of self-defense moves now in our possession, Deb concluded the night by yelling “WHO’S THE BOSS OF ME?”
“I AM!” we yelled as loud as we could, empowered.
This article appeared in a condensed and edited form in The Varsity here.








